Your self esteem is important.
Improved self esteem. self-es·teem /ˈˌself əˈstēm/ noun confidence in one's own worth or abilities; self-respect. "assertiveness training for those with low self-esteem" Self Esteem is psychological. Self esteem is more than what we do. It's how we feel about the things that we do. In my own experience watching clients and being on my own personal journey, stepping into and doing things that require brutal levels of honesty with oneself and getting physically uncomfortable are the greatest builders of self confidence and self esteem. To be honest guys I wanted this to be a teaching moment. It is and will be, but this will be a transparent post as well because I feel that it's important for clients, potential clients and anyone that follows us for our fitness advice to understand that even athletes and coaches alike have some rough times and how those rough times can lead to even rougher times. Writing this is Coach Jessie. Back on may 9th we lost our son Omari. He was 10 years old. Omari's passing was sudden and crippled our entire family. Nearly 6 months later we're still picking up pieces of our life, ourselves, and building our family back up. Shortly after the mill called me back to work and I quit at that moment. I knew that when/if I went back things would be different, I would be on midnights or working on the company's terms again and that I would also find myself once again complacent as far as growing my own personal business. I figured that if I was going to go back to work I might as well focus that time and energy on healing and building the business. I did indeed grow the business. I didn't do much healing though. With being busy and having some very rough days in the mix I easily fell out of my daily routine of training and eating. The combination of not bringing in the money I was bringing in, not leaving the house much (as I do most of my work from home), not being disciplined and working through a trauma that changed our lives in moments; I found myself in one of the toughest seasons of my life. Just 1 month ago I decided it was time to seek some professional help. That has helped tremendously. Over the past few days I got seriously tired of my own shit. I was reflecting on what I did during the times i was most successful with my nutrition and training and was just genuinely happy, and it leads back to this. I was on a routine. I found my groove in what I did daily. What I prepared for. What I anticipated. What I thought about myself. I always looked for the light at the end of the tunnel. This version of me has been non existent and dammit I'm determined to get him back and better than ever. I got into my routine today of eating 5 meals, I got in a solid squat session this morning and look forward to a great chest session tomorrow morning, being very productive with my family and going to watch our client Aiden and the entire Valparaiso football team battle against Michigan City. I know this was a lengthy post and thanks for sticking with me. But before we go I want you to understand that this is more than just waking up and hoping to get better, this is more than simply executing eating and training because I know individuals that are doing well in that area but they're still struggling with mental health. That being said here are a few other things I've been working on to improve my state of mind first and foremost. Write down 10 things you like about yourself. Turn up the volume on those things. Accept compliments. Spend time with people you enjoy( your kids don't count). Feeling good about yourself will help you feel better about your execution and in turn your execution will lead to further increases in confidence and self esteem. I hope that you guys find hope and help through this post. If you did do me a favor and drop 1 thing you like about yourself in the comments. I know that a lot of us are struggling already due to covid and winter will not make anything easy so I want to start an accountability group. We will use the hashtag #strongthroughwinter to help struggling individuals understand that there is light at the end of the tunnel and also encourage them to take action on improving themselves and their situations Bold Strength LLC Building the people that build America #bluecollarmindstate